Ahhhhh, he is sorry that he e-mailed me on Christmas Eve, but he says nothing of the e-mail he sent on the 22nd nor the SMS on the 23rd, which were both totally unnecessary contact initiated by him.

He says he didn't think a 'trivial SMS' would be a problem .... but how could that be (and what about the e-mail from the day before?, he wasn't sending that to his ex), when so many of their fights have been about his relationship with me? He could not have NOT known that it would cause her pain. So he WOULD have known that it was cause her pain and a fight, but he went ahead and did it anyway ...(I still acknowledge though that her 'needs' are over the top and, as he says himself, 'driving him insane')

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He hasn't changed, just like from the beginning he wants his cake and to eat it too.