Something that has been running through my mind recently ..... he seeks to blame me for his relationship problems with Vicki, it would appear then that he has forgotten that right back in the beginning, in July 2002 (yes 2002,not 2003) it was SHE who would continually break off their relationship.

I remember him telling me one time that she had said she didn't want to 'break us up'. I now think he probably told her that she wouldn't be, no doubt telling her that there was no 'us' to break up - shame he hadn't told me yet that 'us' didn't exist anymore.

It is HE who has caused their relationship problems, not me. It is HIS inability to not want to talk to me, HIS need/desire to come here and feel what it's like to be 'home', HIS reaching out (**see note below) to me when he is feeling low or things are tough, HIS broken promises to her (unrealistic and unachievable though they be - his fault though, and more fool him, for having promised them instead of talking to her about the problems that her controlling behaviours are caused by) that have caused their relationship problems of more recent times (commencing July 2003).
**Re 'reaching out' - back in July/August he flat out DENIED that wanting to talk to me etc when he was low was in any way 'reaching out' to me .... Vicki and I couldn't see how it could be called anything else. Obviously the two of us were right, as he NOW says "I was very upset and reaching to the only person who has shown me some kindness in the past" - so in other words he WAS reaching out to me back then too! he is soooooo much in denial regarding his own behaviour it's not funny.