Obviously they are fighting again. How do I know? Because he initiated contact with me of his own volition, and not specified as being about our legal agreement - via e-mail no less and replied when I wrote back! Am I surprised, rofl, you have to be kidding right?

But he hasn't learned anything. How on earth could he expect that, after the way he has treated me for the last six months, I would jump to go meet him just cos he says he wants to?

Does he think I am such a slow learner (like perhaps others) that I will, at his beckon, forget what happened the last time (and the time before that and the time before that etc..) and jump at any chance to see him?

I asked, on those occassions, why it was going to be any different to any of the previous times, and he said he didn't know, or because he said it was ... and of course it wasn't. This time he wont even answer the question! What kind of fool does he think I am? If he gives me no reason to put any credence in anything he might have to say then there is no reason why I will meet with him - why do I want to listen to (yet another) bunch of lies/statements that quite likely just be retracted again in a few days? Simple answer is that of course I don't.

So many times before, when he has been in 'trauma' from a fight with her he says things in his old ilk .. rarely meaning what he says; seems like the only thing true he has said is that there is no future with her! He doesn't even listen to his own words so why should I.

Of course I will not be surprised when they are back together - YET again, and continue their sick little ride allllll over again.

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Maybe I'm being too harsh? I don't know. Maybe I am - but then haven't I every reason to be so very cautious. Obvious answer is yes.

Wise Old Sayings:

"Once bitten twice shy" - stupidly I've been bitten more than once; yes it did take me time to learn the lesson, but I *have* learned it. If he didn't want me to be so mistrustful then he should not have been so mistrustful on so many occassions.

"Strength is not in how many times you get knocked down but how many times you get up" - hmmm well I'm not letting him lay me on the ground and walk all over me, that's for sure"

"Forgive but don't forget" - he hasn't done anything to show he is deserving of forgiveness and I'm certainly not forgetting.

"Insanity is doing the same things and expecting different results" - (one I've quoted to him plenty of times in the past) well I certainly aint going to do the same thing again (ie see/meet him in exactly the same circumstances as before) cos I know what the result is and I aint insane!

No, I don't think I'm being harsh - just sensible given the circumstances.