So many times he asked me why I 'put up with his shit', in a way that started to make me think that he thought I shouldn't be ... and obviously he was right, I just didn't have the right information at the time to know that was true (because he wasn't being truthful with me).

Now I will not put up with any shit from him, nor allow myself to be in a situation where that might even happen - and it appears that he doesn't like that. I told him several times that even I had my limits.

Until there is a reason for me to believe that meeting with him will not result in the same old crap .. saying whatever he thinks of in that second to say (rather than anything that he has real intention of doing/meaning)... then I believe I have done the right thing.

It does pain me though that it must have taken a fair bit for him to actually ask to meet, he would obviously be upset, and it hurts me to turn someone away in a time of need... especially him.

But still, to ask me to meet with no ammeliorating statements regarding immediate prior actions ... no, I will not be anybodies fool and jump on that ride again. I need to know the ride is over, and from his/her/their past behaviour I would be a fool to think that the ride was over *just* because he says 'this is the last time' - he has said that too many times in the past only to prove his words had no meaning.