I *know* now, with 100% certainty, that my blog is not the problem, is not the cause of their fights; I remembered something today that is absolute proof that this is true.
How do I know this to be *absolutely* true, without question? Here is something that neither of them can dispute ....
... they were have the exact same fights, about the exact same things ***BEFORE*** I started blogging.
Christmas last year is the prime example. I was not blogging or posting my thoughts anywhere, was not in contact with her in any way. And they had a big fight; it was Christmas Eve, his first one with his son since before he and his wife split up (probably 9 years since he'd had any of his children on Christmas Eve), and they had a fight because he e-mailed me on the 22nd and SMS'd me on the 23rd (to say Happy Birthday).
He appears to blame the fact that they fight on the existance of my blog ('while your site is up making mine and V's life miserable and difficult...'); why else would he have asked me to take it down?. But having remembered this (that their fights were the exactly the same before I started blogging as after) shows for a fact that my blog is not the problem. It is the *fights* that make him miserable and they fight because of that still-persisting problem - which is present whether or not I blog.
The problem is, they both said it to me on Sunday, the same as it always has been - trust.
Last night I seriously considered not posting anymore, I was so confused, but my conscience about posting is cleared, and in light of this remembering it would seem that it doesn't really matter whether I am posting out of vindictiveness or not (the truth of which I was unable to resolve).
Maybe he would say that my blog prolongs their fights - but the real issue is that they fight in the first place, and that is not controlled by my blog as the Christmas episode shows.
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