Depraved?

It's 'depraved' that I should mention his mother in my blog? Huh? I said that I'd seen her, what is so depraved about that?

Or is it because I mentioned his parents splitting up - but that's what he told me, I didn't think it was a secret? Hmm but he said specifically his mother, so I don't think that was it.


He used to say to me that he couldn't believe I could be (so depressed) just because he left/said he didn't want me anymore. Does that mean I shouldn't believe it when he behaves the same way when someone said they didn't want him anymore?

He's had 14 months, or 22 months, or 25 months (take your pick on the starting point, whether it be when I left the business, or when he left here, or when he said he didn't want to be my partner anymore) to prove himself to her - and would appear not to have done so. He knew, from the first time she found out he'd been lying/deceiving her, that he had to show her he was trustworthy, that the lies and deceit were only due to the circumstances at the time (which I think is what he would say - because he was 'trying to minimise the hurt') ... but that doesn't appear to have happened. And he has been reminded how important that is pretty frequently - I guess it comes up almost every time they fight, which has been frequent (refer post about frequency of fights) - but he continues.



Finally managed this week to read part of a book I bought, hmm well over a year ago now, about lies and lying, and this is what it said about the difference between why women lie and why men lie:

"A woman will lie to make you feel good. A man lies to make himself look good."

(It also says something about the difference between lying to the taxman and lying to your (partner), is that afterwards the taxman will still want to screw you! LOL)



And why is it that he says I should tell her about what kind of person he is? After all this time shouldn't she know for herself what kind of person he is, what kind of person he has shown her that he is? He has changed his life and beliefs (he says), so how would I know anyway?