Thought that has been on my mind throughout the day (TV must have sucked it out of me momentarily when I was writing the previous post) - for no apparent reason (ie no particular 'triggers' to have caused me to start thinking about this):
Why was it me he came to when he was 'trying to work out what's happening'? Don't know why it bothers popping up in my mind all day - no doubt just another of his glib lies.
Mind you, the 'reason' for the visit was requested and answered well after her unnanounced visit ended, which was after his initial request to come over, and after he knew she had been here, so even more reason to believe it was a lie.
Mothers Day Lie
Another recurring remembrance has been of a time when they were fighting and he'd been to see me, and arranged to go to the movies a couple of nights hence. He was working at the office on the Saturday morning of which we were going to the movies. He messaged me around lunchtime to say he was leaving the office, had to go shopping to get his mother a Mothers Day present (Mothers Day was the next day).
When he arrived he was acting strangely again - aloof, distant, weird, so very different to how he had been just a few nights prior. I knew instantly something was up, that he must have seen her/they were back together/that he wasn't 'supposed' to be here. When I asked about the shopping he said he hadn't been able to find anything to buy his mum; gut instinct told me he hadn't even been shopping.
What had actually happened, so I found out later (and as I had partly guessed), is that he had not gone shopping but had been to her house. He'd told her, in explaining why he had to leave and come see me, that we had things to discuss about the settlement - or maybe it was the business, I don't recall which, but it was one of the two ( both being reasons she might find somewhat acceptable/tolerable for him coming to see me). She was apparently (and unsurprisingly) rather upset when she found we'd been to the movies; in explaining to her he made out that the movie was incidental to the reason for the visit, when in fact it was the main reason for the visit.
So many lies ............
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Why do they have to lie so much? I don't think I will ever ever understand that.
-Rebecca
There is a quote by someone that basically says that, while men are physically stronger than women, women are emotionally stronger than men. I think there is alot of truth in that and that one of the reasons that many men lie in relationships is because they just can't emotionally dredge up the strength to face the truth.
For the same reason, they seem to prefer to sabotage the relationship to a point where the woman does the breaking up rather than just do the breaking up themselves. I'm not trying to make excuses for them or anything, this is my observation from repeated experience. Then again, maybe I have just been foolish enough to give my heart to arrogant selfish bastards with masters degrees in manipulation and "how to do and say just the right things in the beginning". I have learned that if a man seems to good to be true then he usually is. Sad,eh? I wish I had my innocence back.
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