I sincerely hope the above statement doesn't become a truism for my family - again. What pisses me off most about it at the moment isn't that the will may be contended, but that they (family member - not some lawyer/third party who didn't know better) chose to bother my mum about it whilst she is still on her holiday in Victoria. Surely it could have waited until she got back, could have let her enjoy her holiday.
Perhaps their enquiry was innocent, but if that were the case why mention the will. I guess we will have to wait and see whether it becomes the Battle of the Wills. (Gran certainly made enough of them, changed them almost as often as she changed her knickers!)
The only saving grace of them ringing whilst she was in Victoria is that the relative whom she was visiting is a lawyer and was able to give her face-to-face advice. I'll be happier when I pick her up from the airport tonight and can give her a hug.
Side note: After much hair pulling and expert help, a faulty memory stick was tracked down as the cause of my computer probs. The new hard drive I bought will not go astray though as the old one was deemed to be a bit suspect when I got my upgrade 6 weeks ago.
Sunday, July 31, 2005
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
Computers Grrrrr!
My computer is going nutto again, same thing as two weeks ago. Looks like I've joined the mup.sys crowd. FIddling with the printer drivers doesn't seem to have fixed the problem this time :( Thank goodness there's more than one computer in this house!
Monday, July 25, 2005
The Only Good Thing About Funerals is...
seeing members of my family that I don't otherwise see, mostly just because we're grown up and have lives of our own, but distance also plays a part.
My male cousin reminded me of his father (deceased) in his speech and some of his mannerisms, it quite surprised me. I saw my aunt, his mother, too, whom I haven't seen for many years. She seemed content in a way I hadn't ever seen in her before.
A female cousin, such a gentle soul, never seems to change.
Stange sometimes, seeing your childhood playmates all grown up; in my mind I still think of them as they were when we were all kids.
And then of course there was my sister and her husband. I'm still not used to her being a blonde now. She always had dark brown/auburn hair, but something happened and she couldn't use dark hair dyes anymore so she went blondish instead. It doesn't look bad or anything, it's just not how I ever picture her in my mind. I thought it rather poor form that they didn't even say hello; it's been that way since my husband and I separated, although she did at least acknowledge me at our fathers' funeral over two years ago.
It wasn't as 'bad' a funeral as the others I've attended (mind you I've only been to about 6, so I guess that's not a big sample). Mum was fine and the service was mercifully short, I found the amount of verbal response from the attendees was unusual, I've never been to a more vocal funeral, some laughter, which to me is good. Went back to her place after everyone had gone, not wanting to leave her on her own too soon. She was a bit over-the-top about the help I'd given her during the week, though I felt as if I hadn't really done anything. I guess she just appreciated an ear and someone to talk some of the icky things through with. Our relationship has improved considerably over the last few years.
And now life continues; the garden grows and flowers and Mum has gone on her planned one week holiday. I'm pleased she went as I'm sure she will have more icky stuff to deal with in the coming weeks.
Speaking of 'Stuff' To Be Dealt With ...
My own stuff continues - more trees felled this week for the sake of the ones in suits. Some introspection going on, none of it having ended in a negative place.
My male cousin reminded me of his father (deceased) in his speech and some of his mannerisms, it quite surprised me. I saw my aunt, his mother, too, whom I haven't seen for many years. She seemed content in a way I hadn't ever seen in her before.
A female cousin, such a gentle soul, never seems to change.
Stange sometimes, seeing your childhood playmates all grown up; in my mind I still think of them as they were when we were all kids.
And then of course there was my sister and her husband. I'm still not used to her being a blonde now. She always had dark brown/auburn hair, but something happened and she couldn't use dark hair dyes anymore so she went blondish instead. It doesn't look bad or anything, it's just not how I ever picture her in my mind. I thought it rather poor form that they didn't even say hello; it's been that way since my husband and I separated, although she did at least acknowledge me at our fathers' funeral over two years ago.
It wasn't as 'bad' a funeral as the others I've attended (mind you I've only been to about 6, so I guess that's not a big sample). Mum was fine and the service was mercifully short, I found the amount of verbal response from the attendees was unusual, I've never been to a more vocal funeral, some laughter, which to me is good. Went back to her place after everyone had gone, not wanting to leave her on her own too soon. She was a bit over-the-top about the help I'd given her during the week, though I felt as if I hadn't really done anything. I guess she just appreciated an ear and someone to talk some of the icky things through with. Our relationship has improved considerably over the last few years.
And now life continues; the garden grows and flowers and Mum has gone on her planned one week holiday. I'm pleased she went as I'm sure she will have more icky stuff to deal with in the coming weeks.
Speaking of 'Stuff' To Be Dealt With ...
My own stuff continues - more trees felled this week for the sake of the ones in suits
Wednesday, July 20, 2005
My Gran (maternal grandmother) passed away on Sunday night. It wasn't unexpected so it wasn't a shock. She was 92; her mum was 92 when she passed away as well; weird co-incidence.
It has been a hard year for Gran; she fell at home about a year ago, broke her hip and was not allowed to return home (for medical reasons - frailty, nearly blind and suffering dimensia). This was after sucessfully (I thought) being treated for cancer of the tongue.
She didn't like it, and we could all understand that, but she really couldn't look after herself by herself anymore, so it was necessary. It's been difficult for my mum and aunt who have been looking after her affairs. Gran knew how to be a difficult woman.
I think I feel mostly relief - for Gran her time of frustration, angst, being in a place she didn't want to be and ill health are all over; for my mum and aunt a very stressful time is over.
Whilst I don't believe anything much happens to us after we die I think where ever Gran is now is a better place for her than where she has recently been.
The fact that I now have no grandparents doesn't seem to have impacted on me; maybe because we haven't beenclosely involved for quite a while. Maybe it will hit me on Friday when we say our final farewell.
It has been a hard year for Gran; she fell at home about a year ago, broke her hip and was not allowed to return home (for medical reasons - frailty, nearly blind and suffering dimensia). This was after sucessfully (I thought) being treated for cancer of the tongue.
She didn't like it, and we could all understand that, but she really couldn't look after herself by herself anymore, so it was necessary. It's been difficult for my mum and aunt who have been looking after her affairs. Gran knew how to be a difficult woman.
I think I feel mostly relief - for Gran her time of frustration, angst, being in a place she didn't want to be and ill health are all over; for my mum and aunt a very stressful time is over.
Whilst I don't believe anything much happens to us after we die I think where ever Gran is now is a better place for her than where she has recently been.
The fact that I now have no grandparents doesn't seem to have impacted on me; maybe because we haven't beenclosely involved for quite a while. Maybe it will hit me on Friday when we say our final farewell.
Monday, July 18, 2005
Saturday, July 16, 2005
I said I wouldn't turn commenting off, but my blog isn't a place for slanging matches between commenters who don't know each other.
After re-publishing the blog sans comments last night my computer had a spack attack, would almost finish loading and then restart itself grrrrr. After much safe-moding and mucking around I finally tracked it down this morning to a corrupted USB printer driver.
Once I fixed that I wandered over and helped some friends move house. It cemented for me that moving house isn't something I want to do on a whim (not that these folks are doing it on a whim). I think I still have unpacked boxes in my shed from my last move about 8-9 years ago!
Got home late afternoon, fluffed around having a coffee and not doing much, then realised I hadn't done the grocery shopping and the hungry hordes (aka the children) will be here next week! Mad dash off to the shops at 4.15 to fill the pantry.
I think I'll go flop on the couch with the paper.
After re-publishing the blog sans comments last night my computer had a spack attack, would almost finish loading and then restart itself grrrrr. After much safe-moding and mucking around I finally tracked it down this morning to a corrupted USB printer driver.
Once I fixed that I wandered over and helped some friends move house. It cemented for me that moving house isn't something I want to do on a whim (not that these folks are doing it on a whim). I think I still have unpacked boxes in my shed from my last move about 8-9 years ago!
Got home late afternoon, fluffed around having a coffee and not doing much, then realised I hadn't done the grocery shopping and the hungry hordes (aka the children) will be here next week! Mad dash off to the shops at 4.15 to fill the pantry.
I think I'll go flop on the couch with the paper.
Monday, July 11, 2005
There's Something Smelly in My Kitchen
I've never realised how strongly scented jonquils are - until today.
Yesterday I took the rather sad-looking herb pot from the kitchen outside for a much needed visit to the sunshine. I replaced it with a pot of jonquils that have been flowering for a few weeks now. There's a mixture of cream ones and yellow ones in the pot.
When I walked into the kitchen tonight after work I could smell them from the door, and they are at the opposite end of the room!
I guess I've never noticed it before 'cos they're usually growing in the garden, or in a pot outside; I can't recall ever having even a bunch of them in a vase.
The scent reminds me of a perfume, but I can't think of it's name.
Back to the Grind
Back to getting up before dark-time has finished, but with the winter solstice well and truly passed it wasn't quite dark-time when I got home. Poor puss got closed in my wardrobe again today (it's about the 3rd time); thank goodness she has good bladder and bowel control!
Yesterday I took the rather sad-looking herb pot from the kitchen outside for a much needed visit to the sunshine. I replaced it with a pot of jonquils that have been flowering for a few weeks now. There's a mixture of cream ones and yellow ones in the pot.
When I walked into the kitchen tonight after work I could smell them from the door, and they are at the opposite end of the room!
I guess I've never noticed it before 'cos they're usually growing in the garden, or in a pot outside; I can't recall ever having even a bunch of them in a vase.
The scent reminds me of a perfume, but I can't think of it's name.
Back to the Grind
Back to getting up before dark-time has finished, but with the winter solstice well and truly passed it wasn't quite dark-time when I got home. Poor puss got closed in my wardrobe again today (it's about the 3rd time); thank goodness she has good bladder and bowel control!
Saturday, July 09, 2005
Wow!
What a spectacular misinterpretation! There are things on my mind recently that I shouldn't talk about due to the fact that the matter is being dealt with by lawyers . The comment didn't relate to things I have posted well into the past, but was in regards to matters that have been raised in the last few weeks/two months.
I'll not be replying to the accusations made; not because I can't but because I choose not to (he used to say that the best thing to do with those kind of posts is to not reply).
Nor will I be turning commenting off.
Holiday
I have one more day left before it's back to the trenches for me.
I got the little bit of rain, although it wasn't whilst I was enjoying a lay-in in bed.
I got a HEAP of sunshine though - which was greatly enjoyed, and allowed the leaves laying all around on the ground to dry, which meant I could vacuum them up (yes, I submitted and bought one to replace the dying one). And the big tree has just about finished getting naked, so there wont be lots more to clean up when I'm back at work. Also meant time spent sitting in the sun, on the lawn, pulling out bindii (man I really detest that stuff!!)
We went to the movies (Madagascar) and went Ten Pin bowling. It must be tooo long since we did that as we all scored dreadfully low!
After two separate days at the service centre (and an unhappily more-than-budgeted amount of $ flown out of the wallet), the car is serviced.
I forgot to go to my eye appointment :( , didn't even remember until the next morning. Oh well, the bifocals will have to wait.
Thunderbolt has done some driving, not as much as he could have.
I didn't blog until today, didn't even write posts and not publish them.
I'll not be replying to the accusations made; not because I can't but because I choose not to (he used to say that the best thing to do with those kind of posts is to not reply).
Nor will I be turning commenting off.
Holiday
I have one more day left before it's back to the trenches for me.
I got the little bit of rain, although it wasn't whilst I was enjoying a lay-in in bed.
I got a HEAP of sunshine though - which was greatly enjoyed, and allowed the leaves laying all around on the ground to dry, which meant I could vacuum them up (yes, I submitted and bought one to replace the dying one). And the big tree has just about finished getting naked, so there wont be lots more to clean up when I'm back at work. Also meant time spent sitting in the sun, on the lawn, pulling out bindii (man I really detest that stuff!!)
We went to the movies (Madagascar) and went Ten Pin bowling. It must be tooo long since we did that as we all scored dreadfully low!
After two separate days at the service centre (and an unhappily more-than-budgeted amount of $ flown out of the wallet), the car is serviced.
I forgot to go to my eye appointment :( , didn't even remember until the next morning. Oh well, the bifocals will have to wait.
Thunderbolt has done some driving, not as much as he could have.
I didn't blog until today, didn't even write posts and not publish them.
Saturday, July 02, 2005
What To Do...
With a week off ... Yes! That fabled thing called holidays has finally come to me. Other than when the business closes at Christmas I haven't had a holiday from work in a looooonngggg time.
First time in two years I can be home with my children during school holidays - we're all looking forward to it, and it doesn't really matter whether we do much of anything or not.
I plan to be in bed when it's raining and not get up until dark-time has finished :) Just as well rain is forecast for Monday YIPEEE! I might just leave the alarm on so I can roll over, turn it off and STAY IN BED consious of the fact that I'm not having to get up (yeah I'm a masochist sometimes aren't I? *g*) I plan to walk around my garden and watch the flowers blooming.
Once dark-time has finished on Monday and I've leisurely risen from my resting place I will be spending some time at the house of the woman with the blindfold and scales. I also will be finishing off my friends books as his computer mangled the data file and I wasn't able to do them today.
Tuesday is booked - car service, movie with my children, eye test (I think the news is going to be that I need bifocals), and sort out my insurances (just got the bills and need to change the values, funny though cos I thought I had lowered the contents insurance when I left the business).
The rest of the week is unplanned though it will include driving practice for Thunderbolt, so heaven knows where we might end up visiting.
I'll probably blog more too, possibly say things I shouldn't say (only because the opposing party still comes to read), may make posts but keep them to myself for now.
I hope there is some rain, I hope there is some sun, I hope I don't bore you all to tears!!
First time in two years I can be home with my children during school holidays - we're all looking forward to it, and it doesn't really matter whether we do much of anything or not.
I plan to be in bed when it's raining and not get up until dark-time has finished :) Just as well rain is forecast for Monday YIPEEE! I might just leave the alarm on so I can roll over, turn it off and STAY IN BED consious of the fact that I'm not having to get up (yeah I'm a masochist sometimes aren't I? *g*) I plan to walk around my garden and watch the flowers blooming.
Once dark-time has finished on Monday and I've leisurely risen from my resting place I will be spending some time at the house of the woman with the blindfold and scales. I also will be finishing off my friends books as his computer mangled the data file and I wasn't able to do them today.
Tuesday is booked - car service, movie with my children, eye test (I think the news is going to be that I need bifocals), and sort out my insurances (just got the bills and need to change the values, funny though cos I thought I had lowered the contents insurance when I left the business).
The rest of the week is unplanned though it will include driving practice for Thunderbolt, so heaven knows where we might end up visiting.
I'll probably blog more too, possibly say things I shouldn't say (only because the opposing party still comes to read), may make posts but keep them to myself for now.
I hope there is some rain, I hope there is some sun, I hope I don't bore you all to tears!!
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