Grrrrrrrrrrr! Alerted to this possibility by another blogger I have found someone has posted two of my poems on their own blog. No biggie there but they are claiming that they wrote them!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe I should be thankful/pleased that someone else thinks so much of my poetry to have repeated it, but it would have been better if they had acknowledged the writer!
It's an AOL blog so I can't even e-mail the person, nor AOL, unless I sign up for an AOL account, which I am not going to do.
Ohhhh that makes me so mad.
Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Sunday, January 29, 2006
Sad Thought
When I saw that he is/was not alone on his holiday my first thought was "oh well, I guess now I wont be surprised when I get a phone call."
I think that's terribly sad. Why not think "oh how nice for him, he'll be happy cos he's with her again"?
I guess that's what history does though; they've had a very chequered history.
It wasn't all sad thoughts though, I did think it was good cos he has probably gained back some of the weight he had lost.
I think that's terribly sad. Why not think "oh how nice for him, he'll be happy cos he's with her again"?
I guess that's what history does though; they've had a very chequered history.
It wasn't all sad thoughts though, I did think it was good cos he has probably gained back some of the weight he had lost.
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Frustration
It's frustrating to see him posting pics of his latest holiday when his last batch of communications with me were about how he had no money!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Yes, maybe he didn't have to pay for the four tickets (he's not alone), maybe it was done on points - but he still 'owed' me a heap of them too! And maybe the tickets were a gift from someone.
But, the flights aren't always the most expensive part of the holiday; accomodation (a two bedroom apartment), meals, camel rides - it all adds up - not to mention the other spending (there are quite a few art galleries where he is, and he has spent up big there previously).
Be Warned
There are likely to be posts about shite stuff over the next period of time. .. however long the legal process takes. I'm not apologising if it bores you - when embroiled in that 'stuff' I really need to write things out, to help me get things straight/out of my brain and writing it down helps me to think things through.
Like I've said so many times before, the blog is titled For Me for a reason.
Silly Boy
It seems rather silly to me to be posting those pics on a web site, and the fact that he recently bought a new digital camera that retails for about A$2,000.00. I wonder how that, together with the holiday, will go down with a judge when he is trying to cry poor?
Also posted a pic of his car - and didn't bother to blur out the number plate! For once he is making things easier for me, though he probably doesn't realise it.
Is His Life Really My Business?
This question occurred to me as I busily downloaded the pics he had put on the web.
I came to the conclusion that it *is* my business; and it is he who has made it so.
It was he who came to me when his relationship with her was on the downer; and not just once. It was he who came to me when he was feeling suicidal because she didn't want him in her life anymore. That made their relationship my business.
It is he who is not making payments that he is legally obliged to; that makes his spending habits my business. If he was making the payments then it wouldn't be any of my concern at all. If he wasn't crying poor to me then it wouldn't be of any interest to me.
Yes, this *is* my business, I have valid reasons for having an interest in his life - and he made it that way.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Yes, maybe he didn't have to pay for the four tickets (he's not alone), maybe it was done on points - but he still 'owed' me a heap of them too! And maybe the tickets were a gift from someone.
But, the flights aren't always the most expensive part of the holiday; accomodation (a two bedroom apartment), meals, camel rides - it all adds up - not to mention the other spending (there are quite a few art galleries where he is, and he has spent up big there previously).
Be Warned
There are likely to be posts about shite stuff over the next period of time. .. however long the legal process takes. I'm not apologising if it bores you - when embroiled in that 'stuff' I really need to write things out, to help me get things straight/out of my brain and writing it down helps me to think things through.
Like I've said so many times before, the blog is titled For Me for a reason.
Silly Boy
It seems rather silly to me to be posting those pics on a web site, and the fact that he recently bought a new digital camera that retails for about A$2,000.00. I wonder how that, together with the holiday, will go down with a judge when he is trying to cry poor?
Also posted a pic of his car - and didn't bother to blur out the number plate! For once he is making things easier for me, though he probably doesn't realise it.
Is His Life Really My Business?
This question occurred to me as I busily downloaded the pics he had put on the web.
I came to the conclusion that it *is* my business; and it is he who has made it so.
It was he who came to me when his relationship with her was on the downer; and not just once. It was he who came to me when he was feeling suicidal because she didn't want him in her life anymore. That made their relationship my business.
It is he who is not making payments that he is legally obliged to; that makes his spending habits my business. If he was making the payments then it wouldn't be any of my concern at all. If he wasn't crying poor to me then it wouldn't be of any interest to me.
Yes, this *is* my business, I have valid reasons for having an interest in his life - and he made it that way.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
OK - So I Can't Sleep, Here's a Game
My mind keeps churning over the icky stuff and I don't feel like going to bed, but I will after this post.
A Game
I don't know if anyone is already doing this, but it occurred to me tonight whilst leaving a comment on one of my 'regular reads' blogs.
Some blogs have verification required before you can post a comment (to reduce comment-spam). Have you ever seen the letters there and thought of what they could be an acronym for?
So - post a comment, and make an acronym of your verification code!
A Game
I don't know if anyone is already doing this, but it occurred to me tonight whilst leaving a comment on one of my 'regular reads' blogs.
Some blogs have verification required before you can post a comment (to reduce comment-spam). Have you ever seen the letters there and thought of what they could be an acronym for?
So - post a comment, and make an acronym of your verification code!
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
Once More Into the Fray..
Back into the fray of the ickiness tomorrow.
When presented with my options I must remember not to be me.
I must remember that me is softer than is for my own good, too compromising, that doing what seems to be being fair to the other party ends up, as it has done in the past, putting me in a worse position; that the other party hasn't been fair to me.
Doing nothing isn't an option as it gives him what he wants, and nothing of what I want; *that* isn't fair.
I need to remember that it is not wrong or unjust, or unethical, for me to pursue what is legally due to me. It is not my fault that he has perhaps not managed his own finances well.I have been compassionate, I have been willing to negotiate, I have offered more leniancy than another borrower would have.
I need to remember that I *do* have the resources to see this through, if absolute need be.
I need to remember *he* has made this worse than it needed to be; he has made our involvement drag on for a year that it needn't have.
Tomorrow I need to be the new me.
I need to remember to read this again in the morning.
When presented with my options I must remember not to be me.
I must remember that me is softer than is for my own good, too compromising, that doing what seems to be being fair to the other party ends up, as it has done in the past, putting me in a worse position; that the other party hasn't been fair to me.
Doing nothing isn't an option as it gives him what he wants, and nothing of what I want; *that* isn't fair.
I need to remember that it is not wrong or unjust, or unethical, for me to pursue what is legally due to me. It is not my fault that he has perhaps not managed his own finances well.I have been compassionate, I have been willing to negotiate, I have offered more leniancy than another borrower would have.
I need to remember that I *do* have the resources to see this through, if absolute need be.
I need to remember *he* has made this worse than it needed to be; he has made our involvement drag on for a year that it needn't have.
Tomorrow I need to be the new me.
I need to remember to read this again in the morning.
Sunday, January 15, 2006
Work is a Four Letter Word
I'm ok about going back to work, though with the mild weather we've been having I've enjoyed the sleep-ins! (not usually possible when it gets really hot)
Work Wardrobe - Check
My work clothes are all washed and I've ironed about two weeks worth of blouses. Managed to find two pair of trousers and a skirt that actually fit at the shops this week. The skirt was a whole $5.00!!! Three items for under $35.00 - wow, I impressed myself!
Work Food - Check
I have two cucumbers, half a dozen tomatoes and ample lettuce in my fridge and two avocados (one ripe, one nearly ripe) - all grown in my garden. So I'm ready to make healthy salad sammos for work lunches.
Work Transport - half a check
Have vacuumed inside the car, will wash it a bit later - it's too hot out there at the moment.
Work Money - Check Check Check
My bank account and credit card both look rather dismal; in fact very dismal. They are soooo looking forward to me being paid again on Thursday.
So I'm just about ready to go back.
What did I Achieve in the Hols?
Leucospernum pruned
Vege garden maintained
Entertaining area maintained
New garden planted
Zoo
Ball dress shopping
My dress cut out!!!!!!!!!
Bathroom sparkly (and has stayed tidy for three weeks - a record)
Time spent with kids
Watched seasons 1 and 2 of Monk
Movies
Frequented BE a fair bit
Organized pics on computer
Played with CSS a bit
Yeah, I did alright. Nothing amazing, but then that's ok.
One last thing to do - (gloomy music) Budget.
Work Wardrobe - Check
My work clothes are all washed and I've ironed about two weeks worth of blouses. Managed to find two pair of trousers and a skirt that actually fit at the shops this week. The skirt was a whole $5.00!!! Three items for under $35.00 - wow, I impressed myself!
Work Food - Check
I have two cucumbers, half a dozen tomatoes and ample lettuce in my fridge and two avocados (one ripe, one nearly ripe) - all grown in my garden. So I'm ready to make healthy salad sammos for work lunches.
Work Transport - half a check
Have vacuumed inside the car, will wash it a bit later - it's too hot out there at the moment.
Work Money - Check Check Check
My bank account and credit card both look rather dismal; in fact very dismal. They are soooo looking forward to me being paid again on Thursday.
So I'm just about ready to go back.
What did I Achieve in the Hols?
Leucospernum pruned
Vege garden maintained
Entertaining area maintained
New garden planted
Zoo
Ball dress shopping
My dress cut out!!!!!!!!!
Bathroom sparkly (and has stayed tidy for three weeks - a record)
Time spent with kids
Watched seasons 1 and 2 of Monk
Movies
Frequented BE a fair bit
Organized pics on computer
Played with CSS a bit
Yeah, I did alright. Nothing amazing, but then that's ok.
One last thing to do - (gloomy music) Budget.
Tuesday, January 10, 2006
Damn Lawyers
When I spoke to a 'substitute' lawyer ('cos mine had gone to hospital and therefore my appointment was cancelled) in the middle of December some of my questions were answered, but others remained; I asked them to make an appointment with my lawyer for this week.
I got a phone call yesterday - he is fully booked this week and can I come next week?
I explained that next week I will be back at work - she says they can fit me in on Tuesday or Wednesday next week.
I'm supposed to ask for time off in the first week back at work?? I don't think so!!
I am supposed to be having an RDO on Thursday, but he is fully booked next Thursday. AAARRGGGHHH!!!!!!!
I'll ring them back today and make an appointment for Wednesday and ask the boss on Monday if I can change my RDO to Wed.
I'm really peeved about this - they've known for a month I wanted an appointment this week! Grrrrr
In Other News
Garden
I managed to get the leucospernum pruned. Fingers crossed that I haven't killed the poor thing this time. One/two years ago I pruned it for the first time ever, so only did a fairly light prune, but the shrub is too big and really needs to be brought back to managable size, so I was more ruthless this time.
Only time will tell.
Bonus: I'm trying to get about a dozen of the offcuts to grow - hope they do, then I can chop the existing one out entirely and replace it.
Ball Dress Shopping
I took Mistyqee into the city today to look for a ball dress. Although we didn't find anything suitable we realised half way through that we should have added bridal shops to our list - something for next time.
Was good all the same, as she got to see that the city shops don't really have anything we don't have out in the suburbs other than ridiculous prices!
My Bathroom=Swimming Pool or Cleaning and Gardening Combine
I'd been lamenting for a while now about the state of my bathroom. The walls are meant to be white but they've been very yellow-looking, and there was a fair amount of mould starting to grow on the cornice and parts of the ceiling (I had my bathroom remodelled about 7-8 years ago).
My house is old (they way I like them) and has very high ceilings. Repainting myself wasn't really an option.
I'd been pondering how to get bleach up to the ceiling (as the standard spray bottles it comes in have no hope of reaching), and had a brainwave - use the garden sprayer!!
So I bought 5 litres of bleach (cost me a whole $3.04 - just a generic brand would do me), emptied the entire bathroom and sprayed the whole damn lot with undiluted bleach. About 10 minutes later I repeated the process with water to wash it down.
Worked a treat! I have white walls and ceiling again and NO MOULD - it killed the lot. I was very pleased that it didn't bleach the dark bench top, nor the black grout on the floor (I had been a bit concerned about that happening).
But I now have two problems:
1. I had closed the door but the bleach dripped down onto the outside of the door. Whilst I tried to rectify this at the time I'm left with white drip marks down the outside of the door. I can fix this, just go buy more of the bleach and do the outside of the door.
2. My bathroom still smells like a swimming pool! This is now 3 days later. I've been burning scented candles in there, but it still smells like a swimming pool. Methinks I didn't splash enough water around :(
Without emptying the entire bathroom again and repeating the water process does anyone have any ideas how to get rid of/reduce this smell?? Please??
Training
Started training myself for the return to work. I'm going to bed at a more reasonable hour and getting up earlier. Not long now :(
I've been trying to think of what I want to get done before I go back to work - and I can't think of anything! (other than see the lawyer, which I can't do). Sad comment I guess on my lack of hobbies and aims/life goals. Oh well, c'est la vie.
Don't forget - how do I get rid of the bleach smell in the bathroom???
I got a phone call yesterday - he is fully booked this week and can I come next week?
I explained that next week I will be back at work - she says they can fit me in on Tuesday or Wednesday next week.
I'm supposed to ask for time off in the first week back at work?? I don't think so!!
I am supposed to be having an RDO on Thursday, but he is fully booked next Thursday. AAARRGGGHHH!!!!!!!
I'll ring them back today and make an appointment for Wednesday and ask the boss on Monday if I can change my RDO to Wed.
I'm really peeved about this - they've known for a month I wanted an appointment this week! Grrrrr
In Other News
Garden
I managed to get the leucospernum pruned. Fingers crossed that I haven't killed the poor thing this time. One/two years ago I pruned it for the first time ever, so only did a fairly light prune, but the shrub is too big and really needs to be brought back to managable size, so I was more ruthless this time.
Only time will tell.
Bonus: I'm trying to get about a dozen of the offcuts to grow - hope they do, then I can chop the existing one out entirely and replace it.
Ball Dress Shopping
I took Mistyqee into the city today to look for a ball dress. Although we didn't find anything suitable we realised half way through that we should have added bridal shops to our list - something for next time.
Was good all the same, as she got to see that the city shops don't really have anything we don't have out in the suburbs other than ridiculous prices!
My Bathroom=Swimming Pool or Cleaning and Gardening Combine
I'd been lamenting for a while now about the state of my bathroom. The walls are meant to be white but they've been very yellow-looking, and there was a fair amount of mould starting to grow on the cornice and parts of the ceiling (I had my bathroom remodelled about 7-8 years ago).
My house is old (they way I like them) and has very high ceilings. Repainting myself wasn't really an option.
I'd been pondering how to get bleach up to the ceiling (as the standard spray bottles it comes in have no hope of reaching), and had a brainwave - use the garden sprayer!!
So I bought 5 litres of bleach (cost me a whole $3.04 - just a generic brand would do me), emptied the entire bathroom and sprayed the whole damn lot with undiluted bleach. About 10 minutes later I repeated the process with water to wash it down.
Worked a treat! I have white walls and ceiling again and NO MOULD - it killed the lot. I was very pleased that it didn't bleach the dark bench top, nor the black grout on the floor (I had been a bit concerned about that happening).
But I now have two problems:
1. I had closed the door but the bleach dripped down onto the outside of the door. Whilst I tried to rectify this at the time I'm left with white drip marks down the outside of the door. I can fix this, just go buy more of the bleach and do the outside of the door.
2. My bathroom still smells like a swimming pool! This is now 3 days later. I've been burning scented candles in there, but it still smells like a swimming pool. Methinks I didn't splash enough water around :(
Without emptying the entire bathroom again and repeating the water process does anyone have any ideas how to get rid of/reduce this smell?? Please??
Training
Started training myself for the return to work. I'm going to bed at a more reasonable hour and getting up earlier. Not long now :(
I've been trying to think of what I want to get done before I go back to work - and I can't think of anything! (other than see the lawyer, which I can't do). Sad comment I guess on my lack of hobbies and aims/life goals. Oh well, c'est la vie.
Don't forget - how do I get rid of the bleach smell in the bathroom???
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Flunked :(
Mistyqee says to me "Mum I think you've failed on the concept of PJ Day"
"Why is that?" I say.
"You're gardening!!!"
I was only watering the plants on the patio ... well also the dead patches of lawn (in the back yard), oh, and yeah, I did cut all the dead bit off the fern between the house and laundry. BUT I WAS STILL IN MY PJs!!
Oh well, I gave it a shot :)
"Why is that?" I say.
"You're gardening!!!"
I was only watering the plants on the patio ... well also the dead patches of lawn (in the back yard), oh, and yeah, I did cut all the dead bit off the fern between the house and laundry. BUT I WAS STILL IN MY PJs!!
Oh well, I gave it a shot :)
PJDay
PJDay
Originally uploaded by Ladytreemaker.
Me in my PJs on my PJ Day (well it's a nightie actually).
Dilemna - the postie has been. I watched out the window and he did put mail in my letterbox. Dare I venture out in my PJs to retrieve it? Let the entire neighbourhood see me at 11.15am still in my PJs?
Sunday, January 01, 2006
Not A New Year Post
Noala's Garden Journal
No resolutions, not for this little black duck.
The Sloth Lives!
I've been having a very slothful week, two weeks now left of holidays so starting tomorrow the slothfulness ends.
Slothful But Productive
My slothfulness has been productive however, I've been clearing the folder on my computer that holds pics from my digi cam that I've not gotten around to organising or giving a more meaningful name than DSC000456.
In the process I'm creating an A to Z photo album of plants in my garden for my garden blog (click on link above). Also moved stuff from the main garden page of my web site to the garden blog to free up more space.
PJ Day - "Not Yet"
Today was meant to be my PJ day* but had to take the DVDs back, so it's re-scheduled for Wednesday.
*PJ Day - a day when you don't get out of your PJs all day. My daughter often has these during holidays but I never seem to; always somewhere I have to go, something I have to do outside. her aim for my holidays this year is that I have a PJ day.
Music
I've started to re-introduce music to my life. After three years of driving in silence* I put some CDs in the car. Classical music only.
*Due to the relationship break up I haven't been able to listen to the radio - too many songs about love that just tore me apart. I graduated to changing the buzzer on my alarm to the radio about a year ago, so I have listened to music for about 5 minutes per day. Music used to be a big part of my life.
Legal Matters
I need to decide what to do. Do I throw more money on the fire and go see my lawyer in two weeks time, or decide to just let the whole thing slide.
No, I don't think I can do that. Guess that means more money burning coming up.
No resolutions, not for this little black duck.
The Sloth Lives!
I've been having a very slothful week, two weeks now left of holidays so starting tomorrow the slothfulness ends.
Slothful But Productive
My slothfulness has been productive however, I've been clearing the folder on my computer that holds pics from my digi cam that I've not gotten around to organising or giving a more meaningful name than DSC000456.
In the process I'm creating an A to Z photo album of plants in my garden for my garden blog (click on link above). Also moved stuff from the main garden page of my web site to the garden blog to free up more space.
PJ Day - "Not Yet"
Today was meant to be my PJ day* but had to take the DVDs back, so it's re-scheduled for Wednesday.
*PJ Day - a day when you don't get out of your PJs all day. My daughter often has these during holidays but I never seem to; always somewhere I have to go, something I have to do outside. her aim for my holidays this year is that I have a PJ day.
Music
I've started to re-introduce music to my life. After three years of driving in silence* I put some CDs in the car. Classical music only.
*Due to the relationship break up I haven't been able to listen to the radio - too many songs about love that just tore me apart. I graduated to changing the buzzer on my alarm to the radio about a year ago, so I have listened to music for about 5 minutes per day. Music used to be a big part of my life.
Legal Matters
I need to decide what to do. Do I throw more money on the fire and go see my lawyer in two weeks time, or decide to just let the whole thing slide.
No, I don't think I can do that. Guess that means more money burning coming up.
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