Feedback

I find this a bit of a tricky situation - giving feedback to a person regarding what and how they say things and their body language/things that seem inconsistent with the whole/out of place.

I believe this is something I've started to do due to past experience.

Generally the feedback is given by way of a question - I ask what was going on/whether something was going on with them that cause the out of place behaviou (I don't like to work with incorrect information, so I like to ask); I do it to check my perception - to find out/check whether I'm 'reading' a situation correctly/understand the factors influencing the contradictory/out of synch behaviour.

Is this weird? I don't know many people who do this. To me, it makes for better communciation.

The dilemna with this though is that once the person is made aware of their behaviour they then have the opportunity to change it. This isn't (necessarily) the purpose of bringing their behaviour to their attention. It makes me question whether the person is then (the next time we meet) behaving 'naturally' or whether they are then going to change their behaviour - perhaps my fear of that is that it could be done with the purpose of trying to deceive me.

I think I need to be judicious with this. Presently I don't think it's a problem/has caused a problem, but it may be different with other people.